You Can Generate Attraction Regardless Of Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.

Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:

Some guys think they’re too old.

Some men think they are too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

This simply is not the truth.

We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It’s important to look good, but it’s not important to be good looking!

Is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike

It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so big that you are sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

WRONG.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

And insecurity is always unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.

If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.

This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.

This is when seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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